Post 19: 40 Posts About Self-Expression

ON QUITTING BECAUSE IT’S TIME

I read a great interview on Tayari Jones today. In it, Eve Dunbar asked her questions about her journey to becoming a professional writer. One response struck a major chord with me, and perhaps with you too.

It’s about permission to quit something, right smack in the middle of that shit. Right when it feels so wrong, and even when you feel like you worked hard to get to that point.
 
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See that? See how it’s sometimes about the questions, and not the answers?  See how Pearl Cleage (with her amazing self!) just posed a question that offered so much resolve, and so much confirmation in its simplicity?

The takeaways that came up for me were: What are you holding on to, that is ready for you to let it go?

When you think about how you want to feel, what’s showing up as a barrier to that feeling? Are you fully expressed today, and if not, what can you STOP doing to better align with how you want to feel more often?

And here’s a link to the full interview, posted on TheFeministWire.com by Darnell L. Moore
 

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    “How important is this to you right now?” My mother would ask me this question when I was indecisive or in angst over accomplishing something. I love her for that question. It was her way of letting me know that living is important, not necessarily ALL the things you can possibly do. Each time she asked me that, a load would just drop from my being. She no longer needed to pose that question when I realized that I could pull away from things without feeling so guilty or inadequate. Today, I encourage my girls to live. I remind them that you can go for your goals, but, know this, it’s okay to pull away, to quit – I’ll be here if you need help in discovering what brings you pure, unadulterated joy. Hugs.

    • Clearly, your Mumz is amazing! I love that question she would ask–particularly for its simplicity. Those feelings of inadequacy can be so stifling sometimes, and it’s great to understand those feelings for what they are, and still be able to go TOWARD ourselves and our truth, which sometimes means we need to stop a process we’ve already initiated and committed to. And most of all, I love that you are offering up that same safe space for your daughters as well. What a beautiful cycle to continue!