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Womanhood. Blackness. Parenting. Location Independence. Pain. Acquiescence. Spiritual Entrepreneurship. Touchy-feely Shit.

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The #BlackMenSmile Project

#BlackMenSmile, a project of @50ShadesofBlack, represents yet another reason I know that the Radical Selfie community needs to exist. I’m so honored to use this space to share a timely sentiment about a timeless thing–the human smile.   This personal...
How To Make To-Do Lists that Actually Feel Good

How To Make To-Do Lists that Actually Feel Good

I’m always kickin’ that S&S factor flow, right? That two-part approach to emotional wellness that is easily applied to any aspect of your life.  I stay on that vibe because I know it to be the glue that keeps me attached and committed to my career goals, my...
Choices, Troubles, and Trusting the Process

Choices, Troubles, and Trusting the Process

Trust the process. Sounds all zen-like and flowy, doesn’t it? It’s the sort of thing you want to be able to say with conviction because it’s brimming with useful life lesson, nam-myoho-renge-kyo type energy, right? But it’s also that lifestyle wisdom that...
Mindful Gifting Options for Cyber Monday Shopping

Mindful Gifting Options for Cyber Monday Shopping

Of course, we’ve got a Cyber Monday sale on and poppin’ (wait… do people still say that? Ha!)! Looking to do some holiday shopping? Come see what’s inside our store over at #theRadicalShop today. Kris and I created everything in this store with...
[Audio] Self-Expression and Emotional Wellness In Light of Tragedy

[Audio] Self-Expression and Emotional Wellness In Light of Tragedy

Yes, this is about the incredibly unjust Mike Brown decision. It is in fact about police officer, Darren Wilson, not being indicted after murdering a young black boy in public. We are angry, and thankfully, we are inspired toward creating a different experience. I’m sharing this recording as a reminder of the importance of self-care and self-love in light of major tragedy.

Embracing the Duality of Strategy & Soulwork

Embracing the Duality of Strategy & Soulwork

You’ve read or heard my theory on the S&S Factor, right? S&S is short for Strategy & Soulwork™, a solution to the one-sided way in which most of us, women in particular, tend to do business when we become more focused on entrepreneurship. I just...
November is Your Month to Feel Good, Out Loud!

November is Your Month to Feel Good, Out Loud!

“Trust the timing of your life.”  I don’t know who said that, but they were on point like a mofo! November’s gonna be a great month for you and me; I write and speak that into existence, and I thank God-Self-Universe right now for the knowing of this...
3 Self-Care Truths to Fuel Your Week

3 Self-Care Truths to Fuel Your Week

Your You-ness is divine, and your ability to nurture that You-ness is one that requires attention, intention, and consistency. Self-Love need not be a reaction to a pain point in your life. Choose to pay more attention to yourself and your own needs; Mondays are great for re-setting powerful intentions like these.

Post 1: The Trinity I Believe In (Incantations)

Post 1: The Trinity I Believe In (Incantations)

Self. Intention. Attention: That’s the Trinity I serve, and it’s the Trinity that serves me. I am a believer. And my belief stems from a place of love, soul, and gratitude. I do not believe in the notion that I was born a sinner, or bad, or wrong. I do not...
Post 2: 70 Lip-Biting Ways to Practice Self-Love

Post 2: 70 Lip-Biting Ways to Practice Self-Love

We all know what it’s like to feel MUTED. It’s as if we know what we want, but we’re afraid to push too hard against what we have.  You know, just in case … We forget the privilege of radical self-expression.  We try to maintain work-life...
Post 4: Finding More Messages On Self-Love & Support

Post 4: Finding More Messages On Self-Love & Support

If you’re a woman, If you’re a person of color, If you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender,
if you’re a person of size, a person of intelligence, a person of integrity, then you’re considered a minority in this world.

…And it’s gonna be really hard to find messages of self-love and support anywhere.

For us to have self-esteem is truly an act of revolution, and our revolution in long overdue. -Margaret Cho

Post 5: A Simple Affirmation In Support of Self-Love

Post 5: A Simple Affirmation In Support of Self-Love

I had spent so much time fighting for myself that I’d assumed it was because I loved myself, and because I wanted to be happy and to be free. But as my battles continued, whether I won them or lost them, I grew into someone different than the one I was fighting for.

And once that version of me, the survivor, was ready to shift from survivor to Thrivist, she needed distance between herself and the feelings associated with the circumstances that had once held her captive. I needed to stop comparing my current life to my past life and release the tethers, so that I could fully embrace myself in the current moment.

Post 6: 8 Questions About Motherhood and Ma’at

Post 6: 8 Questions About Motherhood and Ma’at

Are you familiar with the term, Ma’at? It’s the name of the Egyptian Goddess who represented truth, order, and balance. Ma’at is also used as a philosophy that carries the same energy as the Goddess. So, one can practice living Ma’at by seeking harmony among all aspects of life.

The term, for me, holds particular significance in my experiences with motherhood, as I believe in harmony over balance, when it comes to work-life flow. For me, the practice of living Ma’at helps me prioritize the role of curiosity in motherhood

I feel that I get better at understanding my daughters when I stop assuming that I know, and start getting curious about what might be. I know it probably sounds more sensible to say that we have to know what our children need, but I caution you against that.

Post 8: 14 Radical Acts of Self-Care

Post 8: 14 Radical Acts of Self-Care

Yesterday, I talked about our perceptions of healing, and how hurting may be part of our healing process. I imagine that you are just as familiar as I am with both hurting and healing, and the dance of trading one in for the other. As you and I work through our own...
Post 9: On SuperMoons & Healing Disguised as Hurt

Post 9: On SuperMoons & Healing Disguised as Hurt

Last night’s SuperMoon was kind of a big deal. It reminded me to share a video I did about Radical Self-Expression as part of a healing process. I’d been feeling the flow of emotions for weeks prior to tonight. And I knew that I has spent most of August in...
Post 12: How Our Mothers’ Choices Can Mute Us

Post 12: How Our Mothers’ Choices Can Mute Us

As I matured into adulthood, I would sit quiet in conversations at work or even among my friends afraid to express myself because I might say the “wrong” thing. I was well into my 20’s before I understood that having an opinion did not mean I had to agree with everyone else — that it was ok for me to publicly say “I disagree” though I didn’t do it very often at that time. I disagreed inside.

Post 14: Redefining Our Warrior Selves

Post 14: Redefining Our Warrior Selves

I am a warrior woman.  This does not mean that I am destined to fight wars forever. Or that I will die on a battle field.  It means that I am designed from the fabrics of strength, resilience, and deep emotions. I am wise and vulnerable, and I walk with both wisdom...
Post 15: This Pretty Much Sums Up Why We Unschool

Post 15: This Pretty Much Sums Up Why We Unschool

I share these things not because I believe everyone should unschool, but because I believe everyone should know about this option for themselves and their children. I get that it’s not for everyone, but information offers access to the power of informed decision-making, and that is definitely for everyone.

Post 16: Another short book–but on healing broken

Post 16: Another short book–but on healing broken

I’ve been working on a series of essays about the mothers, sisters, and other loved ones of Black boys like Michael Brown, John Crawford, Travyon Martin, Darius Simmons, and girls like Renisha McBride. While I heal from the inside, I feel rage for their Mamas. Women whose journeys toward healing broken may be miles in the making. Let me start with me, and then work my way toward doing what I can for them. And for us.

Post 17: A short book about feeling broken

Post 17: A short book about feeling broken

So, if the one thing I never wanted to do was now being done, what was the point of moving on? How could I not stop and ask myself what to do next? I had to slow everything to a halt. Let myself fall. But I didn’t expect to not be able to get up. I stayed fallen. Broken actually. And I almost stopped trusting my footing. The dreams I had held on my head …

Post 18: Where Souls Go to Die

Post 18: Where Souls Go to Die

i feel value in looking past the moment these days, because should I stay (t)here—I will die. i will pack my bags, blow out my candles, roll up my mats, tie my locs back, and let my dreams die. should i stay in the moment, the bit of me that still sees the possibility of happiness will drown…

Post 19: 40 Posts About Self-Expression

Post 19: 40 Posts About Self-Expression

ON QUITTING BECAUSE IT’S TIME I read a great interview on Tayari Jones today. In it, Eve Dunbar asked her questions about her journey to becoming a professional writer. One response struck a major chord with me, and perhaps with you too. It’s about...
Post 20: 40 Posts About Self-Expression

Post 20: 40 Posts About Self-Expression

I think Matthew is a brilliant young man, but his perspective on what it means to thrive in America is a lid-on philosophy to which I am vehemently opposed. If we took the stance that certain things are only for certain people, I shudder to think of all the ways that women, immigrants, the elderly, poor people, and all other categories of traditionally marginalized groups would rise out of their situations and into fulfilling lives.


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