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I believe that we live in a “Culture of Passivity,” where having a voice and standing up for yourself is looked down upon, and sometimes even punished. Vanishing face-to-face conflicts requiring direct communication is one of the main components of this shift today, although it’s been happening for longer than social media and the world wide web has been in existence.
I write in order to access myself, and to understand myself. I always have. When I write, my innate voice gets to quell the noise and speak to and through me. It’s so freakin’ dope to have this skill and this desire to use written word as my key to…all of it. Writing is freedom. No doubt, writing is more than what I do, it is how I do, and how I be.
Jay-Z will reference the importance of developing and trusting one’s own voice, particularly in the face of turmoil and less-than-ideal environments. He designed the life he wanted, and in this video, he is sharing, using a humble wisdom and comforting wit, reminds us why we must risk expression if we want to live well and be excellent. Tell ‘em, Hov!
Whether you find humor in this or not, you will find truth. And truth-telling often leads to dialogue, which is the genesis of healing. We can’t heal what we won’t speak on, right?
“Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, which is the only fact we have.” James Baldwin, Radical Self-Expressionist
Action, not inspiration, is how we find and explore ourselves. We can read great books, study great women, applaud great men, and cry at the memories of those who found their voices, and in some cases lost their lives to share what inspired them to action. But until we take it to heart; until we are willing to test our own wings,…
Inner Work is what will help you to take care of yourself while you take care of everything outside of yourself. Your loved ones, your work, your interests, all of those things carry big rewards and great risks. The rewards are obvious, but the risks require your full attention too. The risks cost you quality of life in the form of happiness and health.
When you finally tell a truth about yourself, out loud, you have to let the full effect of that choice work in your favor. Don’t shy away from opportunities to stand in your commitment.
If it’s a fitness goal, make a bold commitment, not one that is safe and easy to accomplish.
If it’s a professional goal, write out the vision so you can see it all the way to what you can imagine. Let yourself commit.
“For 23 consecutive years, the Fi Wi Sinting Foundation has hosted the annual festival in celebration of African heritage in Jamaica. We recognize and acknowledge the importance of preserving vital and living elements of our cultural heritage as well as the positive effect creative activity has on individuals; providing enjoyment, enlivening spaces and enriching lives.”
What images, people, stories, and words call to you stronger and more consistently than most? These are the nudges of Old Knowings, and if you use them up, feel them out, and follow them even when you are afraid, you will find the amplifiers for your voice and the clarity for your next step forward.
I had to take a minute to share this message of radical self-expression with you right now because the whole point behind what I do is to shine a light and sound a siren in any direction where people are using their pain to define their purpose, and ultimately to thrive as a result of learning how to use their pain.
When we manage the energy of our experiences (past and present) instead of just walking along our life’s path tucking, rolling and reacting to whatever comes our way, without recognition of our ability to harness what we know and express what we love, we become change agents. We become the small instances of change that push limitations and fears aside in favor of the audacity to turn a dream into a goal into a series of tasks. These dream-focused tasks become not just what we believe, but what we are doing to see the world we desire, starting boldly with ourselves.
I could list so many other reasons that Valerie embodies the energy of Radical Self-Expression, but it’s probably best that you visit her blog and find out more for yourself.
“The best way to describe Ananda Kiamsha Madelyn Leeke is with a six-word memoir. Yoga + Creativity + Internet Geek = Ananda Leeke. Leeke is a lawyer turned “Jill of many trades:” innerpreneur, author, artist, coach, and yoga teacher. Her mission is “Empowering U2BU through creativity coaching, Reiki, self-care, social media, volunteerism, and yoga.” Since 2005, she has used her blogs to express her mission, advocate for social good, build community, share information, promote her books and events, and market her services. Currently, she serves as a blogger ambassador for AARP, Everywhere Society, Macy’s Heart of Haiti Campaign, and Maiden Nation.”
She learned how to close her eyes without squeezing them out of fear of infiltration of water. She knows not to hold her head all the way up because water would then get into her nostrils. And she learned to trust that she had resources (primarily her mother, in that moment) that were working in her favor, to protect her as she went through the process.
Sometimes, the simplicity of an idea or belief is what makes us more likely to put it into practice. This reminder works well for me, particularly now. Tap into your Inner Little Girl, and see how she can help you keep it simple, consistent, and of course, FUN!
I made this video over a year ago. I made it during the […]
I remind myself consistently that I am a writer. And that I AM is not my doing, but my Creator’s doing, and only I can undo it, most likely by not doing it enough (if that makes any sense to you!). Reality is subjective, so if we shift our reality from what we fear to what we deeply crave, then reality works in our favor.
This is one of the poems and images from Radical Self-Expression Manifesto. The woman pictured is my best friend. Her story inspires me deeply. She is all flow, even in the perceived ebbs. I thought this might feed you something yummy.
For me, my ever evolving relationship with my ever-evolving body, offers plenty of opportunity for me to practice Radical Self-Expression. My hair and my belly have been my two ride-or-die body parts, and I speak in honor of them quite often. Here’s an excerpt from my new book. It’s my way of practicing what I preach.
I shared this particular note on a juicy website I’ve recently discovered—The Goddess Column. It feels to me like a community of young Radical Self-Expressionists, listening inward and outwardly expressing the elements that comprise their lives today. I love it that they’re exploring and expressing at such young ages (early twenties), and I encourage you to…
I want more of that. Not just for myself, but also for you. I believe that it is a radical act to create and participate in scenarios that fuel your joy. In any moment, my daughters–like many children–can transform their literal reality into one more befitting of whatever emotions they want to experience. Imagine if you and I got better at that? Imagine if you felt disconnected from a particular way you wanted to feel, and imagine that you could get dressed, walk outside, and just be how you wanted to feel, instead of steeping in any sense of disconnect for too long.
Giving you this one today because for damn sure, our hair matters. More specifically, our relationship with our hair matters to us. And it speaks to more than just style; it speaks to elements of identity. And whether we agree on the relevance of natural hair in the greater society in terms of labels and misrepresentations—one thing’s for sure:
This 2-part prompt is a simple and powerful way to align yourself in the mornings. If you can start your day by standing in front of a mirror, and completing each of those prompts, you give yourself an opportunity to set a clear intention.
More than a year ago, Tameka Raymond lost her 11-year-old son, Kile, in a boating accident. She mourned, she questioned, and then then she used the pain to fuel something positive. That process is at the core of Radical Self-Expression, and I commend Tameka for allowing her son’s spirit and influence to create a space for other children to thrive.
It’s not ready yet, but I’m putting this out there as way of keeping myself accountable. I will give this, even though I’m afraid that people won’t get it, or won’t want it, or won’t…whateverthehell it.
I will give it. Because it came to me. And because validation has to come from Source/Me first. And it has. So I will honor what comes, because that always keeps me aligned with my joy. And JOY is as radical as it gets.
One longtime homeschooling mom (Meredith N. in Tennessee) was gracious enough to answer my questions about her experiences in Unschooling. Check it out, (it’s a portion of the full questionnaire), feed on it, and let me know what nutrients you get.
“If you’re wondering If your kids are learning, then it may be you need to do more reading or thinking about learning itself – what learning is and how it happens. Chances are, you’re stuck thinking of learning in some particular academic sense – not necessarily in terms of subjects, but thinking of learning in terms of acquiring information and skills. Learning is bigger and more complex than that! It’s an integrated process of making connections.”
One foot in front of the other.
One deep breath, and then another.
Take your time, build your stride,
and just keep going; you will be fine.
A few weeks ago, I visited the grave site of my grandmother’s mother, with my grandmother, and my mother, and both my daughters. It was an epic experience, to put it lightly, and as I engaged and observed, I wondered…
…what dreams and goals my great-grandmother had at my age
…what my grandmother was feeling as she reconnected with memories of her mother
…what the experience would inspire in my mother
…what my daughters would remember about that day
…how this experience would later show up in my work (my writing)
Meet another one of my #radicalselfie sheroes, Karin Amatmoekrim. This 1-minute byte of the gifted Surinamese writer sparked an appreciation of alone-ness in me, so I gladly share it with you.